Thinking about having anal sex , but don't know if you're a top or bottom? First things first: Let's take a look at what the terms mean. Bear in mind that human sexuality is fluid and highly nuanced, and the labels as used here are meant only to help us understand each other, not to stereotype or classify too strictly. A top is a partner who prefers to penetrate his partner—as opposed to a bottom, who prefers to be penetrated.
This is clearly not the case, especially for those people who consider themselves versatile HIYA. But it ought not to be impossible to sexually switch things up. Sure, people have a preference, but now could be the perfect time to escape the top or bottom prison you live in. It could open up a world of possibilities. So how do you go about testing new waters? Miller argues that gay men should examine their relationship with power.
Some people like to top and bottom when they have sex, but what is this, who does what and do you have to do it? The simple explanation is that the top is who puts their dick in someone. The bottom is the person who has a dick put in them. It is a lot more complicated though.