Erika W. Smith Photographed by Francena Ottley. From American Pie to Blockers , there are plenty of teen comedies about students trying to lose their virginities before graduating high school. Watching these movies, you might think that starting college without having had sex is something really strange and unusual. According to the CDC , the average age at which American women first have penis-in-vagina sex is
College Virgins Are a Mostly Silent Almost-Majority
By the time I finally got around to doing the deed in college, they had long evolved past the missionary position and onto more exotic stuff like Doggie Style and Girl on Top. So adventurous! He just wasn't ready.
Yet, by the time I hit high school, I had effectively abandoned that plan and was ready to trade in my virginity at the first opportunity. To my great relief, I was able to trade in my V-card well before my graduation day deadline. When I got to college, however, I was shocked to discover that not only were plenty of my peers living my greatest fear—going to college without having done the deed—but they appeared to be doing so while leading happy, fulfilling lives. One of my biggest concerns about my virginity was the idea that there was only a small window of time in which it would be acceptable to be inexperienced, and that window was rapidly closing. It felt a lot like applying to my first job in high school.